strength in solitude
According to Fast Company, an extrovert is : someone who gains energy from other people and recharges by being social.
I’m an extrovert. I love being surrounded by people, I love being loud, and I love being involved. Go to any popping party in LA and I guarantee you’ll see me there, dancing right next to the DJ. Although I do appreciate my “me time,” I’m a people person through and through.
I was finding that my need to have people around me was actually becoming a crutch. For example, on more than one occasion, I sat out of something I wanted to do just because I had no one to go with. I was using being an extrovert as a guise for the simple fact that sometimes I’m uncomfortable being by myself.
I decided to challenge myself (extraebony.com is all about getting out of my comfort zone!): I wanted to get more comfortable being in social settings by myself and experience new things without needing people by my side.
The very first thing I did was attend a party by myself. While I definitely did feel awkward at some points, it wasn’t until I sat and took everything in that I realized I was completely confident and comfortable in my own skin. Being by myself was actually fun! I got to explore, meet new people, and the icing on the cake was that I did everything on my own terms. Once I found that I was completely ok with being by myself, people started wanting to join me. No longer do I not go somewhere because I don’t have a friend to go with, friends appear everywhere I go.
So, if you’re like me and are looking for a challenge, choose any social setting/event. Go by yourself and see what happens! It may be a little out of your comfort zone, but we’re all about living boldly over here. I encourage everyone to find their strength in solitude.